Bernard Mayer


Bernard Lowell Mayer, Defiance, passed away quietly and peacefully on November 6, 2018, at Laurels of Defiance with family at his side.

Lowell was born in Defiance, to Albert and Clara (Busch) Mayer on March 31, 1925. On November 28, 1945, he and Patricia Kroeckel were married at St. John’s Catholic Church.

Lowell served as a Navy aviator in World War II. The war ended just prior to the completion of his training as a fighter pilot at which time he chose to receive an honorable discharge and return to Defiance.

He began his working life as a parts manager for Schatz Chrysler Plymouth. For several years, he owned and operated the Shell Gas Station on Baltimore Road in Defiance. He was an agent for Prudential Insurance and a salesman for National Memorial Stone Company in Fort Wayne. In 1965, Lowell purchased Bud’s Restaurant for his brother, Elden, and the rest is history.

Lowell found his calling, baking fluffy cinnamon rolls and a variety of pies, the fresh peach being one of the most popular. His donation of a fresh raspberry pie to Hospice each year, eventually becoming known as “Charlie’s Pie” in memory of Charlie Chatham, raising as much as $42,000 for a pie one year. He was proud to be a part of the Defiance community and to be able to participate in many small ways.

His hobbies were connecting with his customers at Bud’s, providing employment and life coaching for many high school kids and adults over the years and providing for his family. He and Pat enjoyed vacationing at the lakes around Angola, Ind., and traveling to Vermont and Boston where he had attended classes at Harvard as part of his aviator training.

He will be sadly missed by his wife of 73 years, Patricia; sons, Jeffrey (Diane) Mayer, Eric (Mary) Mayer and Matthew (Sue) Mayer; son-in-law, Tom (Beth) Rex; daughter, Melinda (Raymond) Mascolino; grandchildren, Kim Mayer, Tim (Wendy) Mayer, Jennifer Pelland, Katie (Chad) Relue, Molly (Justin) Motsch, Erica (Andrew) Mayhill, Sam (Julia), Aaron (Stephanie) Rex, Adam (Jennifer) Rex, Pete Rex, Elizabeth Mayer, Anthony Mayer, Nathan (Rachel) Mascolino, Erin (Micah) Lasher, Joseph, Sophia and Isabella Mascolino; 15 great-grandchildren; nine great-great grandchildren; and a sister, Evelyn Manahan.

Lowell was preceded in death by his parents, Albert and Clara; brother, Elden; sister, Norma; and daughters, Jennifer Mayer and Amy Rex.

Visitation will be at Schaffer Funeral Home on Sunday, November 11, from 2-8 p.m. There will be a vigil service at 7:30 p.m. Sunday. A funeral Mass will be at St. John Catholic Church at 10 a.m. Monday, November 12, with Father Randy Giesige officiating. Interment will be private at Riverside Cemetery at a later date.

Memorials may be made to CHP Hospice, The Red Cross or St. Mary’s Church. Online condolences can be given at

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