By CARLEY RONEY
Scripps Howard News Service
Q: Is it OK to announce our engagement and include photos of my ring on Facebook? I know a lot of people do this, but my fiance thinks it's tacky.
A: Of course you want to share your news (and gorgeous ring) with the world. But before you go public, take a day or so to get a good idea of the size of your guest list.
You may not realize the land mines that are associated with your guest list yet and how one little post can turn into a big headache or into hurt feelings and miffed relatives and friends.
If you won't be able to invite all your family members and friends, think twice about posting the news online for the world to see, at least until you can explain to any potentially offended parties that you're having a very small wedding.
Consider a safer option than Facebook: Post pictures of that beautiful ring and a post-proposal shot of the two of you beaming on your wedding website, and send the link to just the relatives and friends you know you're definitely inviting to the wedding. That way, you'll get the news out drama-free.
(Carley Roney, co-founder and editor in chief of The Knot, the nation's leading wedding resource, advises millions of brides on modern wedding etiquette at www.theknot.com. Got more questions? Visit www.theknot.com/askcarley for 800-plus answers on all things wedding.)